Aversion to Love?
I have noticed that people have a tendency to say that a boy and a girl “like each other” or “have a strong affection for each other” but shy away from the word Love. Why is that? “That which we call a rose, By any other word would smell as sweet.” (William Shakespeare; Romeo and Juliet) You can call it whatever you want, I call it love. My sister today said, “You can feel a strong affection for someone and not be in love with them” then she named two people we both know and who are considered a couple and said “they have a strong affection for each other and they are not in love.” I disagreed, it seems people have this unspoken idea that you are not “in-love” until you get married. Why not call it what it is? Why do people not want to call it love? Is it a fear that it will hurt more if you break up after you start calling it love? (Which I don’t understand but that is another story) Why is there an aversion from the word love?
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You can have an attraction toward someone and not be in love with them… love is a choice… take away the fuzzy feelings and you have to choose… scripture says not to ‘awaken love before it’s time’ I actually think that shying away from (or actually choosing not to say) the word love helps you to remember the guidline to ‘guard your heart’ people need emotional boundaries as well as the physical boundaries… now… two people can say that they love each other in a platonic and it be diferent… I tell girls that I love them and it is a completely different thing than what you are talking about… generally when people shy away from the word love it’s another kind of love… that was too long sorry.
I agree with rebecca 100%. Love is a choice.
I don’t shy away from the word love. Julie and I choose to make our relationship special by saving the word Love for the moment I asked her to marry me. By saying “I Love you” to someone you raise the bar in a relationship.
I have been where you are many times. God wired us to work the way you are working. Just remember to take your time. Dan won’t let you marry her for several years anyway
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